As a rule, well-mannered people do not have any difficulties in terms of behavior in the service. Unfortunately, the realities of our reality are such that television has turned many ideas about good manners upside down, so it makes sense to understand this problem and remind the etiquette of official relations.
Experience shows that the nature of some representatives of the stronger sex is such that they are prone to constant self-affirmation, which is expressed in the following:
- ignoring the business qualities of a woman;
- focusing on gender relations;
- use of official position for personal purposes.
Don't steal other people's ideas
To better understand how these abnormalities manifest themselves, consider some examples.
The subordinate submits to the boss her ideas that contribute to the rationalization of work or new methods of work. At the next planning meeting, the boss, among other issues, touches on this one, but in every possible way demonstrates his disdainful attitude towards him, and soon passes off the ideas of his subordinate as his own.
But the psychology of a modern woman is such that she will definitely find a moment when she can expose her boss with some 'awkward' remark, for example, declare publicly: 'How glad I am, Ivan Ivanovich, that you used my idea! I can tell you how to improve it! ' And a man has to understand that such behavior towards a woman is unacceptable. On the contrary, if he is fair and not biased in assessing the professional qualities of the ladies subordinate to him, he will find loyal allies in them, and information about his own business qualities will spread very quickly!
You should not pass off the ideas of subordinates as your own.
Leave your libido at home
The deviation from the norms of behavior under point 2 can be illustrated by the following example.
Secular rules of conduct instruct a man to gallantly stand up if a woman enters the room. But if someone who wants to please the ladies gets up at every opportunity, gives the lady a chair and a coat, and the office in which he works is quite large, there are a lot of women, and there are just one or two men, then this behavior will certainly be in damage to work. In this situation, you can, of course, follow generally accepted rules, but do it without fanaticism and only within the most necessary permissible limits.
This also includes examples of the manifestation of excessive Don Juanism, when a man is so courteous that he allows himself languid glances, protracted handshakes, gentle patting on the shoulder, and so on. Flirting in the office is inappropriate and highly distracting, not to mention such an aspect as moral untidiness. If a man and a woman have a sincere and long-term relationship that cannot be avoided, it also happens that one of them has to change jobs. As experience shows, office romances harm performance, and it is unlikely that any of the bosses will allow this.
If a woman tries to provoke a man to flirt, then this, as a rule, has some kind of materialistic motive. Correct face-to-face conversation, as a rule, gives one hundred percent result, bringing relief from an unpleasant situation.
Men, leave your libido at home
Service zeal or partial attitude
Deviation number 3 can be described as follows: the manager inclines the subordinate to unofficial relations, systematically appropriates the results of her intellectual efforts, or deliberately ignores the professional qualities of the employee to please other male employees, or insists on her mandatory presence at frequently held office corporate events, and so on. This is a completely unacceptable option. Abroad, for this, the leader will simply be sued. So far, this does not happen so often in our country, but everything goes to the point that the behavior of the most restless comrades will very soon be put in order, moreover, they can pay with their careers.
Men, do not allow yourself too much
Basic rules of conduct
Thus, the following should be considered the basic rules of man's behavior towards a woman in the service:
- Lack of familiar familiarity and impeccable politeness.
- Loyal attitude to professional qualities.
- Ignoring unworthy provocations.
- Gentlemanly behavior in those cases when you need to hold the door and let in front of you (if this does not contradict the office instructions), stand up when greeting (if the hierarchical ladder does not separate you too far from the top manager and the cleaning lady, and the most educated stand up and the appearance of the cleaning lady), it is not necessary to submit a coat, unless the lady herself asks you about it.
- During subbotniks and general cleanings, if you have any, the man, of course, takes on purely male responsibilities for lifting weights and rearranging furniture. This does not apply to duty cleaning, since a woman, if it is an economic worker, knew where and for what position she was getting a job.
- Not a single leader who does not want his reputation not to suffer should not accentuate his deliberate coldness and demand manifestations of excessive asceticism from ladies.
- If your driver or bodyguard is a woman, she will carry out her duties without requiring any special leniency. And if a man has a desire to provide it, he should abandon this idea.
Chivalry in men in blood
Everyone knows that women tend to have a much finer taste and scent than most men. Therefore, excessive obsession, for example, in the kitchen in the office, is not acceptable. It is clear that the lady has nowhere else to go, and she will have to endure your vulgar jokes. Moreover, if a lady is alone, and there are, for example, three men, then she will have to modestly sit in a corner, shuddering when someone's hand with a sandwich waves a centimeter from her chin. All these are also examples on the topic 'what is bad', and you cannot behave like that. Imagine that this is how someone will treat your wife, and you will no longer want to do this.
Chivalry in men in blood
Finally
Unfortunately, gender traditions have led to the fact that men have to be pulled back a little. For centuries, women were intimidated and not allowed to work, now the situation has changed, to our happiness. Therefore, dear men, behave as befits the stronger sex and noble knights!
