Time to blow the dust off your vocabulary and wrinkle your inquisitive mind, comrade. Today we will talk about the beautiful and atmospheric term 'bad manners'. The word is not new, but in the 21st century it increasingly finds a place in everyday communication, creativity and even the refined vocabulary of the permanent inhabitants of the front door. They use it not only at high society events, but also in blogs and even in technical articles (well, isn't it bad manners?). What is this term? Let's turn to history and give examples.
We will also figure out what can be called bad manners in our, in general, time tolerant to shocking.
History reference
The word 'mauvais ton' in Russian comes from the French language, where the expression mauvais ton means 'bad taste'. Initially, in this country, the term was used only in a secular society – the French language, fashionable in the noble environment, firmly fixed this expression in the lexicon. Most often it was used as a censure of unworthy behavior in society. Sometimes bad manners in the 19th century were branded not only obscene behavior, but also a person. In particular, in Gogol's “Inspector General” the author calls the judge Lyapkin-Tyapkin “bad manners.”
In the Soviet Union, the concept of 'bad manners' was expanded
In the Soviet Union, this bourgeois word acquired a deeper explanation. It is interesting that at about the same period on the outskirts of Soviet cities, a socio-cultural phenomenon called the 'lousy intellectual' was gaining popularity, whose adherents professed a demonstrative and aggressive disregard for educated and intelligent people. In particular, the 'Great Soviet Encyclopedia' specifies that mauvais ton can be called behavior that is not accepted in a cultured and respectable society. Thus, contrary to the popular myths about the gray and faceless Soviet Russia, a certain part of the 'comrades' were nevertheless highly developed culturally and socially.
Today the term is used only in the singular. It is used to denote not only behavior that goes beyond the norms of generally accepted morality or adequacy, but also bad or spoiled taste preferences.
Moveton in casual men's clothing
As for the style of dress, regular readers of the Bowandtie blog are already in the know and have their finger on the pulse. For those who are with us recently, a short course 'young soldier'.
Socks and sandals included – dislik
In everyday clothes of a person, nothing and no one limits, everyone himself sets the limits of what is permitted within the personal space. This is a great temptation and a wide margin for error. The main ones include the following:
- Socks and sandals. This combination occurs quite often and in a decent society is always bad manners.
- Short trousers that reveal part of a man's leg or tops of socks should also be forgotten. A man should not appear in public in 'shot panties', this is the lot of young people. An exception to this rule is creative people for whom shocking is part of the profession.
- A large number of jewelry and gold chains. In everyday life, such an act of narcissism is unacceptable. The exception is representatives of some musical movements, for whom the presence of jewelry is a professional necessity.
- Beach kits outside the beach area look out of place. Unbuttoned shirts showing a naked torso, open shoes, short shorts – all this is bad manners on the city streets.
Otherwise, experiments are encouraged, the main thing is that it does not look sloppy. Clothes should always be ironed and shoes clean.
Bad manners in men's haircuts and hairstyles
There are fewer restrictions on men's hairstyles than on clothes. Both radically short styling and long styling are welcome these days. Experiments with shaved temples and long tops are also appropriate.
Dirty and unkempt hair – dislik
The following errors can be attributed to mauvais ton:
- Neglect. The hairstyle began to grow back and stick out in different directions. This is especially the case with short temples and a long crown. Remember to visit your hairdresser regularly.
- Excessive use of styling products. Only your girlfriend's Kens can have such 'shiny' heads.
- Excessive attention to your hairstyle. Surely in the environment of each person there is a type who constantly smoothes his hair, especially if there is a mirror nearby. Unambiguous bad manners.
- Hair must be clean. Even if a man did not wash his hair for at least 24 hours, in the vast majority of cases this can be determined by the curls even with a cursory glance. Dirty hair is bad manners.
The above rules can also be attributed to the beard and mustache. The bristles should not be disheveled and unkempt.
And a little about behavior – modern rules of good form
New technologies have given rise to new rules of behavior, deviations from which are deviant and will also be recognized by society as bad manners. Some of them are worthy of special mention:
- Do not come to visit without a call, especially to a woman. Ladies often wear underwear, robes and, conventionally, 'in curlers' at home. Such intimate details of a lady's personal life, usually, do not want to reveal to a man for the time being.
- You shouldn't aimlessly put your phone on display in public places – cafes, movies, etc. This kind of hints that the surrounding society is absolutely indifferent to you. In addition, this is one of the clear signs of a provincial type of thinking.
- It's not decent to invite a girl on a date by texting via SMS or messenger. Take some time to make a call.
And, perhaps, the main rule of behavior – be a man, but do not be a dork.
Spit for spit – dislike
Spitting on the floor, demonstrative yawning, cheeky behavior in an inappropriate setting, loud sneezing – all this creates a depressing impression of a person, is in no way associated with decent male behavior and is an unconditional bad manners.
Conclusion
Although violations of the rules in dress, style and behavior we have specified are not crimes, you will still bear responsibility for violating them – before your conscience. It may be fun to destroy the psyche of others with your indecent behavior or inappropriate appearance, but it is a painful and dubious joy that is not characteristic of self-confident and self-sufficient men.
To be a bad man or not is a personal matter for everyone. However, it is worth remembering: being polite in our rude world – towards yourself and others – will help not only make friends, but also do things.
