Compliments to a girl in your own words: how is it right, how wrong, examples

Compliments to a girl are like a spark. It can ignite the fire of feelings, it can support the family hearth, or it can turn everything to ashes. We at bowandtie.ru cannot call ourselves ladies' men, but we have some experience in the past that has allowed us to become successful family men in the present. We also have many friends and colleagues, and each has his own experience. Today we will share this consolidated experience – how to compliment women so that they reciprocate, and not bewildered.

In the article, we have collected classics that will not allow you to make a mistake: which compliments will be appropriate, which ones you should refrain from, as well as a few simple and effective examples. Don't forget to thank us later in the comments.

Not only talk, but also listen – interest in the interlocutor's words is one of the best compliments

Four secrets of a successful compliment

The secret of a compliment is for the woman herself to consider it a compliment. Women love it when a man talks about their beauty and sexuality. However, women do not like it when the primitive instinct speaks in a man, and not himself. Therefore, the first secret (especially when it comes to first dates) is to avoid compliments with pronounced sexual connotations.

The second secret is to be sincere in your words. But don't confuse sincerity with rudeness. If you feel like praising a woman's beauty, don't hold back. However, compliments that indicate that a woman's appearance helps men obtain sexual pleasure are best kept to themselves. Be sincere, but like a well-mannered gentleman, not like a primate with a grenade and a portable speaker.

The third secret – do not use pick-up techniques, parapsychological and psychological techniques, for example, copying the gestures of the interlocutor. The reason is that all this is too obvious, and therefore the person using them obviously looks pitiful, like an 'omega' that women do not pay attention to, and which grabs at any 'straws' just to attract the attention of the opposite sex. In addition, such techniques work in most cases only on women with controversial personal qualities, spending time on which is not the most reasonable decision.

Avoid sexually explicit compliments

The fourth secret – not only speak, but also listen. This is difficult only if you are a classic alpha with a background consisting solely of achievements and success – of course, it is difficult to resist talking only about yourself when you are so cool. In all other cases, interest in the thoughts of the interlocutor in itself will become an elegant compliment, and her words between the lines will prompt in which direction to move on.

What compliments are best to refrain from

In the vast majority of cases, the line of conduct indicated below will be relevant not only for the first and subsequent dates, but also for family life. However, all women are different. Therefore, the editors of bowandtie.ru recommends to adhere to the proposed line of behavior at least until you have a clearer idea of ​​the nature and temperament of the woman you are interested in.

So, it's best to refrain from the following compliments.

Every woman wants to feel both desirable and special at the same time.

About cleanliness in the house and tidy appearance

By making such compliments, you thereby hint: 'I doubted that you were a clean girl, and I expected to see a terrible mess here, but you turned out to be OK.' The question itself looks vulgar. And this is not to mention the instantly, but not always appropriate, triggered trigger in the head of any representative of the fair sex, which says: 'I am a woman, not a dishwasher.'

With this motto on your lips, you can be shown the door (or somewhere else) simply because most women are sure that they need to be loved not for something (for example, for keeping the house clean), but simply because they are.

About the age of the series: 'Are you 40? And you look 18, how do you manage? '

The woman herself knows how old she looks. And when you give such compliments, you are walking on very thin ice. If you find yourself in the framework set by a woman for her image with your 'compliment' – this will be met favorably, because it is important for a woman to receive confirmation from a man.

However, if you don't hit the frame, chances are you will never see it after this date. In addition, some women do not want to look younger, enjoying their age and deliberately emphasizing it. In this case, an attempt to underestimate the year will be perceived as 'a stone in her old vegetable garden'.

About one particular feature

For example, by saying 'you look better when you smile' you are saying that 90% of the time a woman is ugly. Because no one walks 24 hours a day, constantly smiling. By highlighting one female dignity in this way, you thereby belittle others. “You look great today” – from the same category.

About 'deep inner peace' or that she is not like others

This cheap trick is a true diamond of pretentious posturing, but its main problem is different. Every woman wants to feel both desirable and special at the same time, and not just desired, like a wordless object of lust, or just special, like the notorious 'ugly but smart girls' from memes.

While emphasizing that she is not like the others, you say in plain text: 'You are OK, but as long as you are here with me. When another is in your place, it will be OK. '

All compliments ending in '… for a girl / woman' are prohibited

“And you are smart … for a woman.” “You're joking funny … for a woman.” “You know it well … for a woman.” By saying this, you imply that you desperately doubt the mental abilities of a woman, and the fact that she can generally move around the city herself surprises you a lot. And yes, you don't have to be a feminist to be offended by such a 'compliment'.

The woman herself knows how old she looks – better not walk on this thin ice

Examples of successful compliments to a girl in your own words

Truth is a good compliment. A few simple and uncomplicated words about their true feelings will say more than dozens of florid sayings, written in an elegant syllable and spiced with loud epithets. Remember, it is important that compliments to the girl are spoken in your own words, and not with quotes from public pages or from thematic sites. Examples:

• You look great as always.
• It's easy with you.
• Glad to meet you / very much looked forward to our meeting.
• You are my 'good morning / good evening' (in response to greeting).

Praise the accomplishments and decisions that the woman tells you about. Notice her business acumen and faithfulness of judgment, but do not give a detailed comment about what you would have done the same (especially on first dates), if you were not directly asked: 'What would you do in my place?'. Remember, you should listen and hear more, and not transfer the conversation to yourself whenever you can.

Don't use pick-up tricks and similar questionable techniques – that's what the 'omegas' do

Examples of correct and relaxed comments during a dialogue:

• this is a great / effective / interesting solution;
• you are smart (with a smile);
• yes, a very witty / unusual way out;
• interesting / fresh look at the question / problem.

Examples of incorrect comments:

• yes, yes, yes, of course, I would have done it myself, and so too, you directly read my thoughts;
• they deserve it, they deserve it, I would have done the same;
• this, of course, is all interesting, but I would …

Support is also a compliment that says you care about a woman. Examples:

• do not be afraid of anything, I am with you;
• you can handle / you can handle everything;
• everything will work out / you will succeed.

Always note the change in appearance. Especially watch out for:

• hairstyle, hair color and haircut;
• manicure, nail length.

Here, the very fact that you have noticed the change will be a compliment.

Don't start a conversation with compliments, take a little time to get to know the other person

Compliments to the girl in your own words – conclusion

In the event of a date, the editors of bowandtie.ru generally do not recommend starting a conversation with a compliment. Spend the first ten minutes expressing interest, making inquiries, finding common ground in the form of common interests or, conversely, problems. This strategy alone will help to avoid compliments of questionable quality, matched and spoken blindly.