And now jokes aside, dear reader. We'll talk about whether a brutal man is who, anyway? The theme is as old as the world, the concept of brutality has undergone amazing metamorphoses over the past millennia. And in order not to come to a linear solution to the issue, we will consider the issue from different points of view: linguistic, psychological and biological.
What is he – brutal? Do men and women perceive brutality equally? And how relevant is such a role in modern society, which has a pronounced pacifist vector of development.
Men and women perceive brutality differently
Bowandtie educational: the etymology of the word 'brutality'
The etymology of the word is ruthless to the wet dreams of infantile girls yearning for 'strong men' and those who want to become immature boys. The word 'brutal' comes directly from the name of a Roman politician and orator. Mark Junius Brutus was the same guy who, despite his plebeian family, made his career under Julius Caesar, and then treacherously drove a dagger into his chest.
In the Italian language, the word brutto has been preserved, which means 'bad'. In French, there is also a term similar in sound and meaning, abruti – slob, degraded. In Russian, the word 'brutal' also had the meaning of rude. There was no romance, no 'strong men', no masculinity, let alone sexuality. Brutal – always bad, sloppy, rude, and even a traitor.
Shot from the movie 'Rocky' – a real hero of our time
But over time, the term acquired a different, more positive connotation. This can be connected, among other things, with the development of the film industry, where the images of unshaven, pumped-up men who despise compromises and save weak young ladies from evil bandits by firing a hail of bullets and breaking skulls has become something quite commonplace, taken for granted. After all, old Rocky (performed by Sylvester Stalone) no one can call good boy. It is he who is the quintessence of brutalism – a sweaty, stern, strong, but not devoid of spiritual warmth hero.
Brutal man through the eyes of the fair sex
The bowandtie.ru editorial team interviewed dozens of girls they knew. According to our research, the definition of 'brutal man' has lost the meaning of rude and cruel, but this type still does not imply complaisance and a tendency to a peaceful resolution of the conflict. In the character of brutal guys, there should be rigidity in relation to themselves and others. They love to dominate relationships, being leaders in a group is the same norm for them as going green. After all, being a brutal does not mean showing disregard for the law or the instinct of self-preservation.
Jason Statham is the son of my mother's friend, brutal, a treasure trove of quotes and your girlfriend's dream
In their behavior, brutal guys openly show some closeness to natural savagery. Often, ladies perceive this behavior as a force behind which you can hide, like behind a stone wall. If we consider the brutal from the point of view of the fairer sex, then this is a person with the following qualities:
- Courageous appearance. Broad shoulders, strong-willed chin, narrow waist, confident look are desirable.
- Independent, unyielding character. At the same time, it is never possible to consult with your mother, but always with your chosen one.
- Understanding what he wants from life. But all plans must be shared with the chosen one.
- Strict adherence to your word. This is important for any man, not just a brutal.
- Physical strength. The most difficult point. Some respondents confuse the concepts of 'pumped up' and 'strong'. In most cases, this means a pumped-up torso, abs cubes and that's it.
- Domineering character. Ability to make decisions for someone, to lead people, to take responsibility. Some interviewees also mentioned a loud, commanding voice.
The image of a classic movie hero emerges, which we wrote about above. Such a man seemed to have stepped off the movie screen, and it is he who is able to take the passion on strong shoulders and carry it to a bright and reliable future.
Did you recognize yourself in this description? If not, then this is normal, because the male view of this sociocultural phenomenon is somewhat different from the female one.
The other side of power
We wrote above that girls perceive brutality differently. The most common reasoning is: “I want a man who, by the power of one glance, would change my life for the better, he must be strong, independent and at the same time wildly sexy.” Nobody says: 'I want a weak, flexible, like plasticine, guy who would fulfill all my whims.'
When choosing a brutal, a girl should be prepared for the fact that a noble prince is the complete opposite of her chosen one.
However, dreams are often shattered against harsh reality. The reverse side of brutality includes:
- not willingness to listen and hear someone else's opinion (even if it is correct);
- emotional stinginess;
- lack of romance (after all, it is more inherent in 'omezhkas', who are unable to attract a girl in any other way);
- an unshakable authority that others must obey.
Although brutal men are considered more attractive, ladies who choose such men sometimes have to pay.
A brutal man through the eyes of the men themselves
According to our research, men perceive brutalism as a rough, powerful, passionate force that evokes respect and awe among their own kind. From early childhood, boys are hammered (often – in the literal sense of the word) into their heads that they should be 'men', never cry, give back … This attitude has been passed from father to son for thousands of years.
Thus, aesthetics of direct action occupies an important place in the cultivation of male muscularity. No general attributes or far-fetched facts. Only specific qualities, the actions they define and the achievements obtained as a result of actions. And here we are no longer talking about 'brutality' as such. Most men do not use this concept. For us, 'brutality' is synonymous with masculinity.
A still from the movie 'Eddie the Eagle' – a tape about a real man who set a goal for himself and achieved it
And a real man should:
- Keep your word. Even rivals respect honest men. And the easiest way to lose respect is to become a liar. Nobody respects liars.
- Solve problems. Both ours and others. And without feigned suffering.
- To be able to stand up for yourself and for your own. Conflict is not always the fault of two people. Sometimes the conflict finds us on its own, even if we do not want it. The man must be ready.
- Control yourself. Punching the table and yelling is unworthy of a man. A man will not let himself off the leash and indulge his weaknesses.
- To take responsibility. For myself, for my woman, for my children. There are many responsibilities in life, and everything is ours.
- To achieve goals. Not everyone was born an energetic achiever. But everyone can become one.
Which point of view is closer to reality? As usual, pluralism of opinions prevails, and the truth is hidden somewhere in the middle. Therefore, let's turn to biology and history, which will put everything in its place.
Biological and historical point of view
In the days of the cavemen, the alphas survived. Only a physically strong, wild and cunning man could overwhelm the mammoth, drive the predator away from the cave, and conquer new territory from his own kind. The 'Omegas' were nothing more than food for the fauna. Thus, the aesthetics of direct action prevailed. If you don't overwhelm the mammoth, you won't eat. If you do not drive away the predator, you will not live. The whole essence of a man was reduced to actions.
In our time, society has adopted a pacifist vector of development. As long as politicians are rattling their weapons and pretending to be 'brutals', common people will grow into aversion to the conflict. Today, a man is much more likely to face domestic than military challenges. Accordingly, actions have changed.
Brutal took a feather in his hand instead of a club, and instead of knightly armor he put on a suit with a tie. Fixing a faucet so it doesn't drip, hammering a proverbial nail into the wall, or negotiating with business partners is no less courageous than breaking someone's jaw in a fight.
A man is determined by his actions – this is how it was 10,000 years ago, and so it is now
In addition, in our time, the boundaries between the sexes have gradually become blurred. A woman who works as a welder or crane operator does not surprise anyone. At the same time, some originally male professions (for example, accountant) have become mostly female.
In this regard, the weaker sex, despite its independence, began to experience a deficit in men who were strong in every sense of the word. Knights (whose disposition was also not distinguished by special gallantry and gentleness), who were able to shoulder all her problems on their broad and strong shoulders.
Biologically, and humans are part of the animal kingdom, females are always instinctively drawn to stronger males. Which will protect the nest and bring meat to the den. In our more pacifist times, it is difficult to understand who is talking and doing and who is just talking. Therefore, preference is given to those who at least look courageous.
A brutal man is
The topic of what a brutal man he is is very versatile. Much depends on the point of view of the object of our research. The very term “brutality” has changed significantly. In our time, he has ceased to be perceived as exceptional cruelty, bloodthirstiness, a tendency to betrayal. Today, a brutal man is not a thug with a dagger in his belt. But who is he?
Tying a bow to your daughter in the morning is also harsh, courageous, brutal and not everyone can handle
Women believe that this is a strong and to a certain extent independent man, in whose appearance there is always a certain gloss. Men tend to replace 'brutality' with masculinity. And masculinity lies in actions. Agree, you can hardly call a man a pumped-up handsome man who is not able to do an elementary thing around the house. Call it brutal – perhaps call it a man – hardly. And history agrees with this interpretation.
To summarize, we can say that a brutal man is a man of action, who is not alien to self-discipline. Maintaining good physical shape to please a friend, or tying a bow to your daughter in the morning is also harsh, courageous, brutal and not everyone can handle.
